From Seeker To Finder ~ Changes In Attitude

A core element of my mind-management work has always focused on the fact that our attitudes determine everything in our lives - and if we can help our attitudes evolve, our whole lives can indeed be transformed.

While I continue to await word from my tech men on how to post videos to this blog, I'd like to continue our discussion of how we can actively take charge of our own minds, so as to improve our moment-to-moment experience.

• After all, that's the key to life - focusing on the quality of our moment-to-moment unfolding into the new moment.Everything else is past and gone, or in the future as an imagination. 

Right now is where it's all happening - that seems obvious, but it's so often overlooked as we gasp for air and struggle to get by during these difficult times.

For a starter, consider this: so many people see themselves as seekers after the truth - as being on a great hunt in which in the future, they hope to discover the key to improving their life experience. 

• Much in our culture encourages us to have this attitude - that we don't have the answer to how to live a good life - and that if we keep searching and seeking, sometime in the future we might find the answer and thus gain the relief and breakthrough we hunger for.
  

I encourage people to let go of this attitude in favor of a better one - that right now, we do have access to all we need, in order to wake up and break free and be genuinely happy and fulfilled in the present moment. We can shift our attitude from that of seeker (a future-oriented attitude) to that of finder (a present-moment attitude).

How is this accomplished? Take charge of where you aim your attention, each moment - and aim it toward present-moment experience, not toward future-projections and 'thinking about' life. And how is this done?

I have developed what I call 'focus phrases' which directly aim your attention in precise directions that enable you to be a finder, rather than a seeker. In the video programs that I'll be presenting soon, these focus phrases are front-center, because they do have the power to transform.

For instance, for thousands of years, spiritual teachers have known that breath awareness is the key to being 'here now' and living a full life - but most people most of the time are unaware of their own breathing, and thus of their core presence. How can you remember to return your attention to your own breathing, and thus tap into the wisdom inside you in the present moment?

Say to yourself often, exactly what you want to do:

"I feel the air flowing in and out of my nose ..."

These words, if said to yourself often during the day, do have the power to transform your life - your breathing will deepen, relax, become stronger - and you'll find yourself also aware of your heart, right in the middle of your breathing - and you'll wake up!

The challenge is to remember to say these words, and hold them in your mind as a beginning focus phrase ... and in later blogs we'll explore various support systems to help you hold key focus phrases in your mind, throughout your day ...

Selby Stress Relief Online

Stress, fatigue and depression grip us too often these days - but online help is now at hand.

I'm being encouraged to begin this blog today, to introduce several new e-based and m-based tools that will help reduce your stress and fatigue, quickly and regularly.

Most of us can't eliminate the external situations that provoke stress, depression, confusion and emotional fatigue - but we do have the choice (one we recognize it) of actively taking charge of our minds, refocusing our attention, and uplifting our spirits. 

As a psychologist, therapist and spiritual consultant, for the last thirty years I've been developing new 'cognitive shifting' techniques and personal support-systems for various wellness and corporate applications, based on an integration of cognitive science and ancient meditative techniques. 

We have recently made a major breakthrough in the use of video experiences that enable you to shift from stressed and depressed, to relaxed and uplifted, without going to the spa or the therapist or the beach. Neither do you have to spend years meditating to achieve results - the video experience itself quiets bothersome thoughts, and points your attention in empowering, enjoyable directions. 

On this blog space I will offer written insights and suggestions, and also short 'Video Treatments' that guide you through powerful stress-relief experiences ... these are online support methods that you can return to at any time for immediate help.

Within the month my team will be launching a new site ... www.iUplift.com ... that will offer a wider range of short 'uplift videos' to help you, wherever you are, to quickly shift out of stress and worries, emotional fatigue and mental confusion, into a stronger, more positive and enjoyable (ie successful) state of mind.

I'm going to post this first SelbyUplift blog today, and go talk with my tech team about how to post one of the new Video Treatments currently in production, so that you can right away, on my next blog here, actually get access to online tools that reduce stress and boost wellbeing.

The web can now deliver professional stress-release tools that you usually find only at expensive spas or an enlightened therapist's couch. I'm excited about being a part of this new movement to get the 'uplift tools' to the people, fast and inexpensively. If you want to sign up for more blogs, we can continue this discussion several times a week!